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Anyone else on here been asked by a model to send them some money outside of this site?
This definitely gives off the foul smell of scam scam scam! He is a model that probably is not doing as well as he used to on the site and some of them think they can take advantage of their regulars that visit them often don’t take the bait! You will have a deep regret if you send him money off the site don’t fall for it! When a model tried this tactic with me I sent them a message in chat that said “adios bb it was nice while it lasted goodbye!” I then removed them from my favorites and I don’t desire to see them again. You have to realize some models will use psychology techniques to get to you and make you do what they want but it’s not about them it’s about you as a customer and what you want. Models that behave like that see you only as a piggy bank to break open and take all your money and then your just a broken piggy bank full of regrets! Quote
There are plenty of fan and video sites and other ways you could use to pay a performer without just giving cash. Beware of giving cash using your real name, phone, address, and other private information. Beware giving cash in any case. Quote
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There are plenty of fan and video sites and other ways you could use to pay a performer without just giving cash. Beware of giving cash using your real name, phone, address, and other private information. Beware giving cash in any case.
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I completely agree 100%! when a scammer is trying to lure they will do it little by little and they are hoping that you don’t notice there tactics. Sophisticated and unimaginable are the perfect adjectives. Con artists are smart people they are not stupid. Quote
But you will never "meet" them. Your money will, but you won't. Quote
The next time, I came back to the site and I befriended another performer. I was more wary, but he decided to strike out on his own offsite and he wanted to maintain our friendship. Then, a conversation started on an app, we share "moments and photos" of our lives or rather who knows what from his life...probably reconstructed photos. He made it sound like a good friendship. It was one, two weeks.....Then BAM...the question. "I am really having a hard time and I'm not chatting anymore, so can you lend me some money since your are working, baby?" I said no, I had other responsibilities. End of conversation from him.
These friendships can seem very real here. Especially if you are normally socially awkward or just downright butt ugly like me. But they are not. They are here to perform. You are here to pay.
Don't try to make off with anyone offsite. It's not worth your time or money. And it's not real. No matter what you hear.
Just enjoy it for what it is, entertainment. The names are not real. There is NO relationship. Play, pay, leave...rinse, lather, repeat.
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The next time, I came back to the site and I befriended another performer. I was more wary, but he decided to strike out on his own offsite and he wanted to maintain our friendship. Then, a conversation started on an app, we share "moments and photos" of our lives or rather who knows what from his life...probably reconstructed photos. He made it sound like a good friendship. It was one, two weeks.....Then BAM...the question. "I am really having a hard time and I'm not chatting anymore, so can you lend me some money since your are working, baby?" I said no, I had other responsibilities. End of conversation from him.
These friendships can seem very real here. Especially if you are normally socially awkward or just downright butt ugly like me. But they are not. They are here to perform. You are here to pay.
Don't try to make off with anyone offsite. It's not worth your time or money. And it's not real. No matter what you hear.
Just enjoy it for what it is, entertainment. The names are not real. There is NO relationship. Play, pay, leave...rinse, lather, repeat.
Don't beat yourself up, has nothing to do with social awkwardness nor physical appearance, it can happen to anyone.
When you became a regular, you established a bond that then carried offsite, just keep in mind that the same dynamic will remain even when offsite and maintain strong boundaries, which seems you do.
Is like when a hairdresser leaves the salon and goes solo, you may follow them but you don't lend or give money away. Always make sure that you get the haircut ;)
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Don't beat yourself up, has nothing to do with social awkwardness nor physical appearance, it can happen to anyone.
When you became a regular, you established a bond that then carried offsite, just keep in mind that the same dynamic will remain even when offsite and maintain strong boundaries, which seems you do.
Is like when a hairdresser leaves the salon and goes solo, you may follow them but you don't lend or give money away. Always make sure that you get the haircut ;)
This is a good way to see it. Not all models that ask are scammers. You have to read the whole situation and if they disappear from a No, then you move on and don't think of them again.
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When I finally tried to buy something and the third card I used told me I had reached my limit and I couldn't buy a real loved one something for a birthday, I knew I had a problem. Quote
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